Why You Should Throw Yourself a Farewell Party
Heres a unique concept that can help you to become the best version of yourself possible:
Throw yourself a party!
Okay, so hear me out.
This party isnt just going to be a regular knees up. Instead, this party is going to be about saying goodbye to an old chapter in your life  even an old version of yourself  and welcoming the new.
Why Its Time to Say Goodbye
Too many of us find that we feel trapped by our own personalities, our histories, and our traits. We can get trapped in something called pattern thinking or type thinking where we behave the way we always have just because we always have.
There are many reasons for this. We could get into the neuroscience of plasticity, and how repeating certain behaviors makes those behaviors much easier in future (thereby meaning were more likely to repeat them even more!).
But there are also more straightforward surface reasons for this.
One is that we think of ourselves in a certain way, and we want to act in a way that appears congruent with what weve learned about ourselves. We all think of ourselves as being a certain way. Maybe youre funny, maybe youre someone who doesnt take any nonsense.
Whatever the case, it can then become very difficult to break out of this pattern as you begin to revert to type. This is who you are, its what everyone expects from you, how can you act any differently?
Of course, if that means that youre going to continue damaging your health because youve always been the guy who clears his whole plate well then that can be a big mistake!
In other ways, we might revert to type when were tired or when were weak. While you might try to engage in new habits and behaviors, its always easier to revert back to the old ones.
By throwing this going away party for yourself though, you mark a psychological end to that period of your life and that chapter. This can have a huge impact by making you really see that time as over, and by giving you a good reason not to go back there. It has drawn a line under it, and you know that you cant go back without significant consequences or without really going against what you said you were going to do.
Time to say goodbye!
